Mind Games in A Sexual Society – Keeping the Faith In A Modern World
MIND GAMES IN A SEXUAL SOCIETY
By DeNeen Attard
“…It is obvious what kind of life develops out of trying to get your own way all the time: repetitive, loveless, cheap sex; a stinking accumulation of mental and emotional garbage; frenzied and joyless grabs for happiness; trinket gods; magic-show religion; paranoid loneliness; cutthroat competition; all-consuming-yet-never-satisfied wants; a brutal temper; an impotence to love or be loved; divided homes and divided lives; small-minded and lopsided pursuits; the vicious habit of depersonalizing everyone into a rival; uncontrolled and uncontrollable addictions; ugly parodies of community…”
Galatians 5:19-21 (MSG)
Staying true to your Christian values in today’s sexually charged society is a mind game. The question is, “Are you playing to win?” or are you simply hoping to just break even?
Maintaining your Christian values in a progressively promiscuous and sexually charged society is not complicated when you renew your mind to what God has to say about the matter and make the decision to live the values of Christ as appose to a tweaked version trumped up by social norms and political acceptance. The complication comes into play when you try to tweak what God’s Word says about the matter or when you try to live Christian values without Christ─, which is not possible. (John 15:5) Any attempt to do so, will result in utter failure. There is no middle ground.
Yes, I know that we live in a society where sex has been dumbed down to just a simple act with no more significance than blowing your nose. Yes, I realize that most of the magazine ads and television commercials use sex as a way to sell everything from toothpaste to drain cleaner all the while boasting the joys of sex. Yes, I know that Christians who choose not to partake in sex before marriage are viewed an boring, old school, nerdish and just plan stupid by some. SO WHAT! If you are a Christian and you want to live the values of Christ, you are going to have to find out what the Bible says and determine in your heart that God’s values are your values — PERIOD. For those who say, the temptation is too much…
“No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.” 1 Corinthians 10:13
As you begin to renew your mind to God’s Word and meditate on what He says is best and how He instructs you to accomplish it, you will see the results manifest in your life. Renewing your mind is not a one-time process but a continual process that requires commitment.
So, where do you start?
- Pray and ask God to reveal to you in His Word how you can live a pure life in the midst of the sexual temptation you face everyday.
- Listen to the Holy Spirit. Unless your conscious has been greatly seared, you know when you doing something inappropriate. Don’t ignore that nudge!
- Remove yourself from tempting situations. Protect your eyes and ears, as they are gates to your spirit and heart. This will mean that you are going to have to walk out on some conversations. Stop watching certain movies and television programs and stop socializing with certain people.
“Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” “
1 Corinthians 15:33 (NIV)
“Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.”
Proverbs 4:23 (ESV)
- Speak up. Don’t be scared! Everyone else is speaking up and giving their views and opinions regarding the matter, you should do the same. Let people know that you are choosing to live your Christ-centered Christian values.
- Find support. NOTE: If pornography is a problem, you are facing. Don’t keep it in the dark. Get help. Find an accountability partner and add parental controls to your computer and smart phone that prohibit you from accessing the material and if you do, your accountability partner will be notified.
“If you’re losing the battle against a persistent bad habit, an addiction, or a temptation, and you’re stuck in a repeating cycle of good intention-failure-guilt, you will not get better on your own. You need the help of other people. Some temptations are only overcome with the help of a partner who prays for you, encourages you, and holds you accountable.”
Rick Warren, Author of The Purpose Driven Life
For those who are thinking that it is too late because you have already fallen into the sexual trap ─it is NOT too late! God’s love for you is so great that He has and always will extend His mercy and grace to you. You can start new today. No matter what road you have traveled and what you have done along the way. When you ask for forgiveness, God is merciful to forgive you and to forget that you ever sinned. He will never hold it against you again nor will He bring it up. With that in mind, neither should you, nor should you let anyone else throw your past transgressions in your face.
Writer, in demand, speaker and Certified Professional Life Coach and Belief Therapist DeNeen Attard combines her training with humor, hard truths and compassion to empower others to achieve personal growth, healthy relationships and success in business. DeNeen is a native Hoosier with degrees in Management and Organizational Communication. DeNeen readily admits that she is an information junkie who also enjoys spa days, traveling and spending time with her husband Daniel.