Know Yourself! – Defining A Path of Self Discovery
The Path of Self Discovery
By Sidney Evans
Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. – Tao Te Ching
In a recent conversation with a close friend and confidant, she posed the question – “What would you want the world to know if you knew it would be your last conversation?”
If analyzed appropriately, this question would strike fear in the vast majority of people from the intellectual (Maya Angelou) to the masculine (The Rock). Not only for it’s healthy dose of impending doom but for its laser like accuracy to force you to think and live on a higher level. This question is so compelling to me that it has shaken me to my core and I love it. I started to think of the lessons of my grandfather, “If you make a bed of rocks, you lay in it” Then, I started thinking of my grandmother with her Nike like ad imploring, “Just Do it – Nothing beats a win but a try.” My mother has imparted too many lessons to pick one largely because of her Zen like approach to life. However, her infamous quote is: “Know when to leave the party.” Truly makes me wonder whether she was the secret consultant to Bill Cosby and Oprah (such layered advice). These would all be fantastic responses that could spur conversation and meaningful thought on their own but I failed to do one thing. Answer the question!
After much deliberation(drum roll please), I have decided what my response would be to answer this question. And you should consider your response as well.
1. Work tirelessly to know yourself:
Most people have a surprisingly deficient knowledge of self.
This is usually because people utilize ‘things’ to fill their being & rarely focus on the internal.
The art of knowing yourself is like anything worth having-it requires work. It will not just appear to you like a mirage in the middle of the night but reveal itself slowly based on cumulative efforts of self-discovery. That said, it is the most rewarding & beneficial of processes one can embark on.
2. Run your own race:
I often tell people that the most important part of the Kentucky Derby is blinders. Why? Because, they disallow the horses to focus on anything but what is in front of them. The horses that embrace this usually do very well. Caveat- doing well is not always defined by winning. Never evaluate your progress versus someone else. You are where you are for a reason.
3. Enjoy the process:
Too often, we are so concerned with the end goal that we miss all the pearls along the way. The beauty of life is that there are so many lessons in our quest to achieve greatness. Start paying attention to some of the small details along the journey. They will become invaluable when you connect the dots of your story later. Those that enjoy the process usually feel more fulfilled and find greater happiness. Success is truly fleeting.
Like anything, there are tools to “jump start” this process. I have found the most effective tool for me to be the DISC personality assessment model. DISC utilizes a four quadrant system (Dominance, Influence, Steadiness, Conscientiousness to examine the behavior of individuals in their environment or within a specific situation. It is widely believed that characteristics of behavior can be grouped into these four major “personality styles” and they tend to exhibit specific characteristics common to that particular style. Once evaluated, you will inevitably feel that your DISC position is better than another – I can assure you that it is not. There is no one best DISC position.
All individuals possess all four personality styles to some degree, but what differs from one to another is the extent of each. I must admit that not only do I subscribe to these teachings, they changed my life. You will definitely come away with a much better understanding of your behavior and others. Things some how will start to make sense slowly but surely. Upon discovery that I was an “Id” personality type referencing the Influence (primary) Dominance (secondary) domains, it gave me the ability to vacillate in and out of who I am to interact more effectively with others from business to personal life.
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This power has proved invaluable in every facet of my life producing measurably positive results. Think of having better meetings, communicating with your partner, or finally closing that deal! Life can be very serendipitous and one never knows what is next. I challenge you to harness your true power with knowledge of self to run your own race in order to leave your blueprint on society.
Will the Real You Please Stand UP! The World is waiting.
Sidney Evans is a certified DISC coach & trainer. He can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org
Twitter – @sydinc