Daddy, I Need You! – A Look At The Impact Of Father Daughter Relationships
DADDY I NEED YOU!
By DeNeen Attard
Prior to Oprah’s Lifeclass Special Daddyless Daughters airing July 14th, we are posting a recent article about Dr. Meg Meek’s book Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know.
“Daddy, I need you!” It is the cry of many young girls’ heart. Some girls
scream it out in rage, while others muffle the words softly into their
pillow as they cry themselves to sleep at night. The father-daughter
relationship will impact a girl’s life well into her adulthood. If
this delicate dance between father and daughter is done right, it can
be a great experience that creates fond memories and provides a road
map for years to come. On the other hand, just like a bad dancer can
bring you great pain by trampling on your feet, so can an emotionally or
physically absent father bring heart ache to his daughter. Many times
when this occurs, it will bring devastation and ruin, causing the girl
to seek her father’s love in all of the wrong places.
A girl needs her daddy to set an example on how she should be treated
by men. There is no greater emotional security for a daughter than to
have a positive and nurturing relation with her father. A present and
engaged father can help build his daughter’s self-esteem which can
steer her away from drugs, alcohol, and promiscuity. A father’s
attention can eliminate her need to seek male attention from others
who don’t have her best interest at heart.
However, it is not enough to just be present; a father must be engaged in
almost every aspect his daughter’s life. His support will allow his
daughter to make wise decisions in the future.
In her book, Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know,
Dr. Meg Meek found that the following:
• Daughters whose fathers provide warmth and control achieve higher
• Girls involved with dad are twice as likely to stay in school.
• Daughters who are close to their fathers exhibit less anxiety and
• The likelihood that daughters engage in premarital sex, drug use,
and alcohol plummets when their dads are involved in their lives.
• Daughters who feel that their fathers care about them and feel
connected with their dads have significantly fewer suicide attempts
and fewer instances of body dissatisfaction, depression, low
self-esteem, substance abuse, and unhealthy weight.
• A daughter’s self-esteem is best predicted by her father’s loving affection.
I encourage all fathers to let everyday be Father’s Day by honoring
your father-daughter relationship. When you do, you are honoring God.
Let Him be your guide on how you strengthen and enhance your
relationship with your daughter. It does not matter if she is no
longer young or old, her needs are right now. She will always be daddy’s
little girl, and she still needs you to be present in her life and to
support her as she navigates this journey called life.
Article Originally posted in High Hopes Magazine 2012
Writer, in demand, speaker and Certified Professional Life Coach and Belief Therapist DeNeen Attard combines her training with humor, hard truths and compassion to empower others to achieve personal growth, healthy relationships and success in business. DeNeen is a native Hoosier with degrees in Management and Organizational Communication. DeNeen readily admits that she is an information junkie who also enjoys spa days, traveling and spending time with her husband Daniel.