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Living Single: 5 Ways to Enjoy Life While Riding Solo

Living Single: 5 Ways to Enjoy Life While Riding Solo
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Living Single: 5 Ways to Enjoy Life While Riding Solo

By E. Wilson

For the past 2 weeks, I’ve been celebrating my 27th birthday with family, friends, and coworkers. In the midst of impromptu birthday parties and vacation, I had a chance to really reflect on my life as I move closer to the “big 3-0”.  Professionally, I’m doing great, having focused on my education to develop skills in the area of technology post-recession.  However, let society tell it and my personal life would be defined as “lacking”.  Though I continue to date casually, I’m unmarried.  I’ve become comfortable with living single and learned to navigate life on my terms until the right partner comes along.

It seems like the older we get, the more singleness is treated as a prison sentence or physical ailment.  Being single can suck, but depression over not having a significant other is optionable.  Here are a few ideas to improve yourself by focusing on the present until your future mate comes along:

1. Give thanks daily.  Make a list of at least 10 things you love about being single, write them down, and remember them on days when you feel particularly lonely.

2. Don’t have kids? Take time to travel.  Traveling is one of the most enjoyable ways to explore other cultures while gaining experience as a world citizen.  Without the responsibility of raising children, traveling alone allows you to save cost and plan according to your interests.

3. Take up a new hobby.  You don’t have time to feel lonely when you’re busy doing something you love. Try something new just for fun.  Learn a new language, develop a professional skill, or work on your health by setting a few fitness goals for the month.

4. Focus on your present relationships.  Instead of idealizing marriage, work on building more security among the friends you have now.  Being a good friend requires you develop trust, be patient, accept mistakes of others in forgiveness, and learn to love intentionally.  As your friendships grow, so will your support network.  Also, focus on being a good listener, showing compassion, and learning how to talk to strangers to foster new friendships in the future.

5.  Make like Sheryl, and lean in.  While single, think about your career goals and get to work on accomplishing them this year.  As Valerie Burton points out in her book, Happy Women Live Better, “Don’t wait for a knight in shining armour to rescue you financially”.  Focus on how to secure a promotion at work by working exclusively with a industry mentor.  Network at company events and get to know stakeholders and their interests.  On top of allocating money to your retirement, take time to learn about investing to diversify your 401K account portfolio. and develop other income streams to grow your savings.

In addition, please remember this quote: if you’re not happy being single, you probably won’t be happy being in a relationship either.  Learn to live with and love yourself before expecting someone else to.